You know all of those things you do on a daily, or maybe it’s weekly or monthly basis that you feel completely ashamed about and remorseful after you do them? Maybe it’s indulging in way too much processed foods even though you know the detrimental effects they have on your body, or maybe it’s the occasional cigarette even though you technically “quit” months ago. As we’ve all heard by now, our subconscious belief systems are what determine our reality and what choices we make a majority of the time. So how do we use this plus the laws of energy in order to unravel these self-defeating habits once and for all? The answer (as always in this spiritual journey).. duh duh duhhhh LOVE. The integration of the ego (awakening process) is about unraveling each judgment we have against ourselves, so that we may be brought back into alignment with our divine nature or also known as unconditional love. The things you can’t seem to “stop” doing are actually the things in which you have spent the most “energy” judging yourself because of. Let’s say you have been on a ‘diet’ of some sort your whole life, well that’s a lot of time and energy spent focused around food AND not to mention, how many times have you used food as a means to either judge yourself as “good” or “bad”(when I eat the broccoli I’m good, but the brownie I’m bad)? In the game of energy, the only thing that can heal and transform our judgments is love. So in order to break through unhealthy patterns we must first use complete honesty as our guide as to where the place inside of our heart that needs love the most in order to heal. In the case of the dieter who wants to stop eating, the most honest confession firstly may sound something like, “I don’t know how to stop judging myself because of the foods I eat, I surrender this issue to the light of divinity to resolve on my behalf” (and at this point send love to this judgment) Or for those with a spiritually decorated ego structure, we’ve all heard that judgment and non-self love is ‘bad’ and not appropriate for the spiritual seeker that we are, so we may even say, “I don’t know to stop judging myself FOR judging myself about what foods I eat, I surrender this to the light of divinity to resolve on my behalf, I love you judgment, I love you.” Now, here’s the “tricky” part. You must be completely fine with making any decision you want to make after that, if the next day you eat a plate full of brownies, Enjoy them! And keep enjoying and sending love to EVERY DECISION YOU MAKE, and every feeling you have thus after. Once the ego is no longer being judged because of the decisions it’s making, no one is chastising it for anything, the need to make these decisions no longer is needed. Who wants to act bad when no one is telling you your behavior is bad anymore? But if you eat the brownies and you still feel that overwhelming pang of judgment on yourself, then it’s back to step one, loving the judgment, loving the judgment of the judgment, etc. Once ALLLLLL feelings, judgments belief systems are loved UNCONDITIONALLY, our higher self expands which translates into “bad” habits or behaviors dropping naturally. NO effort required! So just love everything about yourself. Nothing is “bad” until you have named it as such, and one day you will have loved yourself so much that having an occasional brownie won’t even make you flinch, nor will eating healthy/being healthy all day long either. NO judgment, all love, you are more powerful than you think 🙂
There will be a time on your spiritual journey where you become unrecognizable to your own self. Things that used to upset you, no longer bother you. People that used to bring about negative emotional reactions from you, either drop out of your life naturally, or you notice their behavior changes. Their behavior is different because you are different. The world as you used to see it no longer exists, because your relationship with yourself has changed, thereby changing your perspective of life. This may feel a little disconcerting at first. The declutching from our own egos and minds may feel slightly strange and unnerving because we are quite literally learning how to navigate through the world from our new sense of self. Our old self is a thing of the past, and when we don’t find ourselves reacting in the same old way to the same old problems we may feel like we are completely losing a sense of who we are. If this is the stage that you are at, Perfect! This means your consciousness is evolving. As long as we remain completely open and accepting of this new stage in our evolution it will take us to states of being we have not previously been at. Yes, it may be scary at first. We had become so attached to our things, and people, and our beliefs about ourselves, that when the attachments start to break we feel a little shaky. If we allow this inner peace to emerge, one that is no longer attached to the illusory “sense of self”, and to external reality, we find that an overwhelming sense of calm overtakes us. An authentic version of our being begins to emerge showing us that all those things that we thought we “needed” or were worried about, were never anything to stress about in the first place. Life is moving us along in the exact path we are supposed to be on if only we become comfortable in the “unknowingness” of it all. We are starting to feel states of consciousness that we have not previously experienced, and our only task is to trust that it is bringing us to a place of embodying more of our true selves, which ultimately means more happiness, love and inner peace for ourselves and those around us.
Life becomes frustrating when you take everything personally. Someone doesn’t hold the door open for you as you walk in a store, you immediately are offended & label them rude. Someone forgets to pick up their plate & put it in the sink, you’re angry bc for some odd reason you see this as a personal attack on you. A friend runs a little late to a lunch date & you’re annoyed bc you fail to see there might be a legitimate reason this has happened. Someone says something you deem “offensive”, but did you ever consider YOU may have taken it the wrong way? There’s 7billion people living on earth, if you think that everyone has received your personal “book of rules & conduct” that tells them exactly how you expect them to behave in any given situation, I assure you, they didn’t. Sometimes people just forget things, sometimes people just run late, sometimes people forget to say “please” or “thank you”, and it has nothing to do with you.. We’re human, we’re not perfect. People don’t need you to criticize them or put them down or yell at them.. What they need is empathy, empathize that they’re human & just b/c they didn’t behave exactly like YOU think they should have, doesn’t mean they are wrong. If you made a mistake you would want some empathy, compassion & forgiveness, right? Don’t take everything as a personal attack.. It makes life so much more difficult than it needs to be. Have an amazing night!