Every relationship you have in your life right now you have attracted to you for a reason. Each person in your life is reflecting back to you an aspect of yourself. Normally, the relationships that you have attracted that you are having the most trouble with, either because the person brings about a negative, angry, or irritating emotional reaction from you, are the ones that mirroring back to you an unhealed aspect of your unconscious mind. Your ego, afraid to be “found out”, is pointing the finger outside of itself to others as the “problem” so that it can keep the spotlight off of itself. As long as we stay focused on what others are doing TO us, we never come to terms with our own perceptions (which are stemming from the illusory self/the ego). Our perceptions of others are purely from our OWN programming and ego NOT from the behavior of another person. If you are trying to understand the reason certain people are in your life, and what this can teach you about yourself, the answer lies in your perception of them. Maybe you perceive this person as not accepting of you, in which case, you must turn it around on yourself and ask, “why don’t I fully accept myself?” If you truly accepted yourself, someone else’s perceived non-acceptance would not irritate you. Or maybe you perceive someone as not understanding you, or not empathizing with you and showing you compassion. So turn it around on yourself, “Where am I not understanding my own self, and showing myself unconditional love and compassion to myself?” It is only when we love ourselves UNCONDITIONALLY, meaning EVEN loving the parts of ourselves that feel anger, jealousy, sadness, unworthiness etc… Love all these aspects of “self”. Once you have accepted and loved all these perceived “shortcomings” they can no longer bother you. They become healed. Hating and denying our shortcomings will perpetuate the problem of us hating and finding shortcomings in the people we have relationships with in our lives. Once we come to terms with our own self and heal our own psyche and realize the ego is not our true self, we naturally heal our relationships with others. We stop being angered by their reflecting back to us where we still haven’t come to terms with our own unconscious mind. Be honest with yourself. Question yourself, always. Point the finger back inside of you instead of out into the world… this is the most powerful thing you can do to heal the relationships in your life.